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10 Lies Men Believe About Porn: The Lies That Keep Men in Bondage, and the Truth That Sets Them Free (Morgan James Faith)

The battle to resist pornography is brutal. Its lure just seems too powerful.
We've tried for years to be strong, run away from temptation, and manage our desires in better ways. No matter how hard we try, though, we just can't get free from pornography.

Some of us have lost all hope.
What if the battle you've been fighting isn't even the real battle?

The battle to resist pornography is brutal. Its lure just seems too powerful. We've tried for years to be strong, run away from temptation, and manage our desires in better ways. No matter how hard we try, though, we just can't get free from pornography. Some of us have lost all hope.

[Kindle Edition]

Eve: A Novel by Wm. Paul Young

From the author of the twenty-two-million-copy bestseller The Shack comes a captivating new novel destined to be one of the most talked-about books of the decade.

Eve is a bold, unprecedented exploration of the Creation narrative, true to the original texts and centuries of scholarship—yet with breathtaking discoveries that challenge traditional beliefs about who we are and how we’re made. Eve opens a refreshing conversation about the equality of men and women within the context of our beginnings,
helping us see each other as our Creator does—complete, unique, and not constrained by cultural rules or limitations.

Rid of My Disgrace: Hope and Healing for Victims of Sexual Assault (Re:Lit)

“I can’t express how grateful I am that someone is tackling this subject with both a pastoral heart and an understanding of how the devastating effects of sexual assault can wreak havoc for decades after the abuse. It is an epidemic issue where resources are scarce. There isn’t a weekend that goes by where we aren’t told a gut-wrenching tale of innocence stolen and left trying to help a man or woman make sense of their pain. I praise God for the gospel that can heal and restore and for the Holcombs that had the courage and wisdom to write this book for us.”
Matt Chandler, Lead Pastor, The Village Church, Highland Village, Texas

“God sees, knows, heals, restores, and redeems. This is the message of hope this book offers, to all who have suffered from abuse. How desperately needed this message is in our culture today! In my interaction with teens and young adults, I have heard many stories of sexual abuse. I am so thrilled that there is a resource like this book that offers relevant, practical, biblical hope and healing words of life.”
Rebecca St. James, singer; author; actress

“Having experienced much sexual brokenness in my own life and now having pastored a church that ministers to thousands of broken people, I can say with confidence that this book is desperately needed. Justin and Lindsey write to help the abused and to help those who help the abused. It is a must-read for all those who live and minister in this sexually broken world.”
Darrin Patrick, Founding Pastor of The Journey Church, St Louis, MO; author, Church Planter


Through a Man's Eyes: Helping Women Understand the Visual Nature of Men

You already know that your husband, boyfriend, or son is wired differently from you, but do you know what that really means? It means, among other things, that he’s been given the gift of a unique visual wiring—and the challenges that come with it.
In Through a Man’s Eyes, Shaunti Feldhahn and Craig Gross team up to help open oureyes to something we are often blind to. They address questions like:
·         “Why are guys so visual—and what does that mean, anyway?”
·         “How do I help my son navigate this sex-crazed culture?”
·         “How dare someone tell a woman to watch what she wears! Isn’t it a man’s responsibility not to look?”
·         “If he’s tempted by visual images, is there something wrong with him? With me?”
·         “My husband is an honorable guy, so why would he be tempted by porn?”
·         “How can I talk to my husband or son about this? What can I do to support him?”
Through the compassion and candor in this book, we can learn what men have long wished we knew (but didn’t know how to explain)—and see the difference it makes when we do!

Go Small: Because God Doesn't Care About Your Status, Size, or Success!

It is in the seemingly ordinary moments of life where God does his greatest work.

Go big or go home . . . so they say. But do you ever feel like no matter how big you go, you still haven’t gone big enough? Have you grown so frustrated with the pursuit of “go big” that “go home” is starting to look inviting?

Going big all the time is not only a recipe for burnout—it’s not the way God works in your life. It’s time to break free from “go big or go home.” It’s time to invest in stamina, to cultivate endurance, to recognize the miraculous world of the ordinary, little things.

Scary Close: Dropping the Act and Finding True Intimacy.

After decades of failed relationships and painful drama, Donald Miller decided he’d had enough. Impressing people wasn’t helping him connect with anyone.

He’d built a life of public isolation, yet he dreamed of meaningful relationships.

So at forty years old he made a scary decision: to be himself no matter what it cost.

Open: What Happens When You Get Real, Get Honest, and Get Accountable

Despite high-minded ideals, temptation always seems to loom around the corner, threatening to derail us into a desperate world of secret behavior and covered-up indiscretions.

From families to marriages to businesses, on a scale as global as the credit default swap meltdown or as personal as our last session on the Internet, we are suckers for bad ideas.

Redemption: Freed by Jesus from the Idols We Worship and the Wounds We Carry

“This is a wonderful piece of gospel work. It is case-study rich, evidencing lots of wisdom in the ways of people who suffer. It is theology rich, exegeting in a very practical way the transforming power of the gospel and all the ways we are tempted to distort or minimize it. This needs to be published and distributed widely. I know of no other work that does what Wilkerson has done. It surely does advance the cause of applying the gospel to brokenness of this generation. Well done!”
Paul Tripp, President, Paul Tripp Ministries

“I am weekly confronted by the harshness of life as a result of sin—abuse, neglect, consequences of sin. The list goes on and on. As a pastor of a church full of younger people I have searched for a resource that I could with confidence recommend to those stuck in their sin. This book is that resource. It will help hurting people (which includes us!) come to grips with the reality of both our sin and the reality of being sinned against. Further, it will move people to Jesus, who is greater than our sin.”
Darrin Patrick, Founding Pastor of The Journey Church, St Louis, MO; author, Church Planter

“Some support groups support without challenging people to be different. This book is a resource for a different kind of support group, a Redemption Group. Backed by good scholarship yet accessible to all Christians, it brims with great stories of redemption and keen insights into the souls of broken sinners, challenging readers to follow the Christ who can set people free.”
Eric Johnson, Lawrence and Charlotte Hoover Professor of Pastoral Care, Southern Baptist Theological Seminary; Director, Society for Christian Psychology

[Kindle Edition]

The Case for a Creator

“My road to atheism was paved by science . . . But, ironically, so was my later journey to God.”
—Lee Strobel


During his academic years, Lee Strobel became convinced that God was outmoded, a belief that colored his ensuing career as an award-winning journalist at the Chicago Tribune. Science had made the idea of a Creator irrelevant—or so Strobel thought.

But today science is pointing in a different direction. In recent years, a diverse and impressive body of research has increasingly supported the conclusion that the universe was intelligently designed. At the same time, Darwinism has faltered in the face of concrete facts and hard reason.

Has science discovered God? At the very least, it’s giving faith an immense boost as new findings emerge about the incredible complexity of our universe. Join Strobel as he reexamines the theories that once led him away from God. Through his compelling account, you’ll encounter the

mind-stretching discoveries from cosmology, cellular biology, DNA research, astronomy, physics, and human consciousness that present astonishing evidence in The Case for a Creator.
Who is Jesus? 

The Case for the Real Jesus: A Journalist Investigates Current Attacks on the Identity of Christ


From college classrooms to bestselling books to the Internet, the historic picture of Jesus is under an intellectual onslaught.
This fierce attack on the traditional portrait of Christ has confused spiritual seekers and created doubt among many Christians – but can these radical new claims and revisionist theories stand up to sober scrutiny? 
 

Atheist-turned-Christian Strobel, with four Gold Medallions and other awards, focuses on rediscovering the “real” Jesus, whose identity and message have come under attack in recent years. He addresses six major challenges and claims: that a “different Jesus” is seen in ancient documents that seem as credible as the four canonical gospels; that tampering by the church has damaged the Bible's portrayal of Jesus; that new explanations refute Jesus' resurrection; that Christianity copied pagan religions regarding Jesus; that Jesus didn't fulfill messianic prophecies; and that contemporary people should be able to choose what to believe about Jesus. As with his previous books, Strobel attacks the issues as an investigative journalist, though one with a clear agenda. He searches out experts (including Craig A. Evans and Michael Licona) to refute each objection, offering readers top evangelical scholarship revealed in everyday language while challenging the claims of liberal writers like John Shelby Spong, Bart Ehrman and others. “In the end,” he says, “none of these seemingly daunting challenges turned out to be close calls... they were systematically dismantled by scholars... with facts, logic and evidence.” Evangelical readers will come away with deeper understanding of the various arguments about Jesus. (Sept.) Copyright 2007 Reed Business Information.
C. S. Lewis takes us on a profound journey through both heaven and hell in this engaging allegorical tale. Using his extraordinary descriptive powers, Lewis introduces us to supernatural beings who will change the way we think about good and evil.

Chapter One

: It was a wonderful vehicle, blazing with golden light, heraldically coloured. The Driver himself seemed full of light and he used only one hand to drive with. The other he waved before his face as if to fan away the greasy steam of the rain. A growl went up from the queue as he came in sight. 'Looks as if "he had a good time of it, eh?... Bloody pleased with himself, I bet... My dear, why can't he behave "naturally? — Thinks himself too good to look at us... Who does he imagine he is?... All that gilding and purple, I call it a wicked waste. Why don't they spend some of the money on their house property down here? — God! I'd like to give him one in the ear-'ole.' I could see nothing in the countenance of the Driver to justify all this, unless it were that he had a look of authority and seemed intent on carrying out his job.

My fellow passengers fought like hens to get on board the bus though there was plenty of room for us all. I was the last to get in. The bus was only half full and I selected a seat at the back, well away from the others. But a touslehaired youth at once came and sat down beside me. As he did so we moved off.

'I thought you wouldn't mind my tacking on to you, ' he said, 'for I've noticed that you feel just as I do about the present company. Why on earth they insist on coming I can't imagine. They won't like it at all when we get there, and they'd really be much more comfortable at home. It's different for you and me.'

Waking the Dead: The Glory of a Heart Fully Alive - John Eldredge

There is a glory to life that most people-including believers-never see. In this insightful new book, John Eldredge presents the heart as central to life. Not only is the heart essential; the heart God has ransomed is also good. Building on these foundational truths, Eldredge shows readers why real Christianity is a process of restoration, where the broken parts of our hearts are mended and the captive parts are set free.

Waking the Dead leads readers to understand how to live from the heart, care for their heart like the treasures of the kingdom, and give from fullness instead of emptiness. This message also shows how living from the heart can energize people to love God and others in a way they've never experienced, revealing to them life's purpose: fighting for the hearts of others.

Take on Your fleshly nature!

You love the Lord-so why can’t you gain lasting victory over that one recurring sin? You’ve prayed for help and tried everybody’s 10-point plan, but you find yourself back on your knees, asking God to forgive you for doing the thing you said you’d never do again. Are you going to live with this misery until you die?

No! says Christian physician Clark Gerhart. In this fascinating new take on the fleshly nature, Dr. Gerhart explains what lies behind strongholds and how sin uses the body’s God-given systems to urge you to continue in these behaviors. He then shows how God’s work of sanctification can lead you into victory and peace. If you have ever longed to live the pure, Christian life, this message will help you:

  • Understand the surprising link between stubborn sin and your body’s processes
  • Discover the common root of every recurring sin, and what to do about it
  • Identify repeated patterns of behavior in your life as signs of fleshly control
  • Grasp how even good things-like serving in church-can become fleshly addictions
  • Learn the simple process that brings God’s cleansing power

No longer will you be a slave to the pressure that drives you to the old disobedience. No longer will the flesh keep you in wretched defeat. Once you are free of the sin that so easily entangles, you’ll even be equipped to minister to those around you. Finally, you can be free forever!

 

Naked Intimacy Kindle Store

One of America's foremost couples therapists offers expert advice on rekindling relationships through "naked intimacy"

Naked Intimacy is for everyone who yearns for an intimate relationship and wonders why it seems so elusive. It is for couples who are experiencing emptiness and loneliness in their relationships and dream of rediscovering the deep intimacy that existed in the early days of the relationships.

Joel D. Block, one of the founders of the modern self-help movement, entices the reader to take his or her clothes off emotionally with a love partner­­a daring and courageous act, to be sure, but one that ultimately brings new vitality and eroticism to a relationship. Based on interviews with more than 200 people whose experiences speak directly to readers, concerns about love, happiness, fulfillment, and sexuality, Naked Intimacy is an important work that challenges love partners to do what it takes to achieve even greater levels of intimacy in a relationship.

 

The Game Plan
[Kindle Edition]

The Game Plan: The Men's 30-Day Strategy for Attaining Sexual Integrity.


Countless men's lives are being ruined by sexual sin.
 It infects, corrupts, and devastates. It destroys relationships, families, and lives. Everywhere men turn today, sexual temptation rears its ugly head, and the internet has made it easier than ever to get caught in the trap of sexual sin. It takes more than a little effort for men to resist the temptations. It takes aplan.

This book is that plan – a plan for getting back in The Game, where the battle for sexual integrity can be won, once and for all. An experienced counselor, Joe Dallas lays out a positive five-point strategy for overcoming harmful sexual addiction. Draing from his own hard-earned lessons and based on biblical principles and practices, Dallas's method is innovative and simple,
powerfully equipping those men who have been caught up in pornography, extramarital affairs, or any form of sexual sin.

 

The Purpose Driven Life: What on Earth Am I Here For?
[Kindle Edition]
 

The Purpose Driven Life: What on Earth Am I Here For?


Books on living the Christian life are a dime a dozen.
 

But this one makes sense in the real world!


The shelves of Christian bookstores bow under the weight of myriad titles promising freedom from bondage, secrets of debt free living, keys to loving other people, and a whole host of other practical matters. But the one that has weighed in most heavily of late is Rick Warren’s recent release The Purpose Driven Life . Even more than its predecessor The Purpose Driven Church , Life has become a full- fledged popular phenomenon, almost to the point of becoming a movement in itself. Whereas Church sold over a million copies in fewer than ten years, Life has reportedly sold 11 million copies in fewer than two years – that’s 15,068 copies every day for two years! Pastors are giving it two thumbs up from the pulpit, quoting it at length and encouraging Bible study groups to read it together. But Life has transcended the evangelical community, rising to the top of both the New York Times and the Wall Street Journal Bestseller Lists, and being featured on display tables at Barnes & Noble’s and even in the aisles of Wal-Mart. If any Christian book has been wildly popular among both evangelical circles and the culture at large, this is it.
 
Every Man's Battle Audio

Every Man's Battle

Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time

by Stephen Arterburn, Fred Stoeker, Mike Yorkey

the challenge every man faces… the fight every man can win

From the television to the Internet, print media to videos, men are constantly faced with the assault of sensual images. It is impossible to avoid such temptations…but, thankfully, not impossible to rise above them. Shattering the perception that men are unable to control their thought lives and roving eyes, Every Man’s Battle shares the stories of dozens who have escaped the trap of sexual immorality and presents a practical, detailed plan for any man who desires sexual purity-perfect for men who have fallen in the past, those who want to remain strong today, and all who want to overcome temptation in the future.

The Workshop for Men

Russ Shaw here, This is a great book for any man going in to the battle. I call men to do battle with themselves, John in this book challenges men to battle for there hearts. I agree, I just pray we don't get lost in metaphor here. Being heart free men that are dangerous, passionate, alive, and free does not mean we need to run to the woods! We can have this attitude where we are at right now. The battle for your masculine heart is not "out there" it is in the deep ruggedly untamed wilderness behind your eyes. The deep forest of your heart and soul. 

Book Description

God designed men to be dangerous, says John Eldredge. Simply look at the dreams and desires written in the heart of every boy: To be a hero, to be a warrior, to live a life of adventure and risk. Sadly, most men abandon those dreams and desires-aided by a Christianity that feels like nothing more than pressure to be a "nice guy." It is no wonder that many men avoid church, and those who go are often passive and bored to death. In this provocative book, Eldredge gives women a look inside the true heart of a man and gives men permission to be what God designed them to be-dangerous, passionate, alive, and free.

Amazon.com If Christian men are going to change from a pitiful, wimpy bunch of "really nice guys" to men who are made in the image of God, they must reexamine their preconceptions about who God is and recover their true "wild" hearts, writes bestselling author John Eldredge in Wild at Heart: Discovering a Life of Passion, Freedom, and Adventure. Eldredge throws down the gauntlet--men are bored; they fear risk, they refuse to pay attention to their deepest desires. He challenges Christian men to return to authentic masculinity without resorting to a "macho man" mentality. Men often seek validation in venues such as work, or in the conquest of women, Eldredge observes. He urges men to take time out and come to grips with the "secret longings" of their hearts. Although the book succeeds best in its slant toward a male audience, it also strives to help women understand the implications of authentic masculinity in their relationships with men. Eldredge frames the book around his outdoor experiences and appealing anecdotes about his family, sprinkling the text with touches of humor and overlying everything with heartfelt passion. Even as he mixes eclectic ideas about masculinity from popular movies such as Braveheart with classic words from Oswald Chambers, and lyrics from the Dixie Chicks with stories from the Bible, he points to only one answer for men searching for their true wildness of heart. Writes Eldredge, "The only way to live in this adventure ... with all its danger and unpredictability and immensely high stakes ... is in an ongoing, intimate relationship with God." 
Every Woman's Battle: Discovering God's Plan for Sexual and Emotional Fulfillment.

When does an affair begin? Not with the first forbidden touch...but with the first forbidden thought. Unexpectedly, you find yourself enjoying a powerful emotional bond with another man. You feel like you matter to someone again. And the door you thought was locked so firmly---the door to sexual infidelity---is suddenly ajar.

The only way you can survive the intense struggle for sexual integrity is by guarding not just your body, but your mind and heart as well. Every Woman's Battle can help you learn to do that. Using real-life stories and examples from her own struggle, Shannon Ethridge helps women like you---whether married, engaged, or planning to marry someday.

Before I read this book, I assumed that any struggles I had with sexual purity (whether in practice or in my mind) were a problem that were uniquely my own. I assumed that no other woman struggled in the way that I did. The idea that I alone had to battle these temptations was an isolating feeling. Ethridge’s honest and practical book has shown me that facing temptation is natural, and everyone deals with it. What the book then proceeds to do is to give practical pieces of advice for keeping your heart, mind, and mouth pure.

 
Every Woman's Battle: Discovering God's Plan for Sexual and Emotional Fulfillment
[Kindle Edition]
Every Heart Restored: A Wife's Guide to Healing in the Wake of a Husband's Sexual Sin

As the wife of a man who is addicted to lust, pornography, or masturbation, you are not alone. Millions of men can't get through the day or week without clicking onto their favorite Internet porn sites, thumbing through adult magazines, or watching sensual videos-and millions of wives suffer as a result. Here is the book for every woman who has become a casualty in the fight for sexual purity. Filled with stories from wives and husbands at every stage in the struggle for sexual purity, this book addresses the questions and real-life issues that matter to you most. Whether you are facing the startling new revelation of your husband's sin, dealing with a long-term problem, or cleaning out an old wound, you will be led to healing greater than you imagine possible.

When a man is ensnared by sexual sin--soft-core or hard-core pornography, Internet liaisons, or adultery--his wife's love and trust are shattered. However, if he chooses purity--and if his wife chooses mercy--trust can blossom again amidst the ruins. Over the past decade, nearly one million men have found inspiration and hope in Every Man's Battle, the best-selling men's guide to victory over sexual sin, and the other Every Man series resources. Here at last is the book for every woman who has become a casualty in the fight for sexual purity. Every Heart Restored is coauthored by a husband and wife team who faced his sexual sin and successfully rebuilt their marriage. Filled with stories from wives and husbands at every stage in the struggle, Every Heart Restored addresses the questions and real-life issues that matter most to wives who have been betrayed sexually, meeting them where they are in the process and guiding them to healing greater than they imagine possible. Single women in serious relationships will also benefit from this book. An eight-week companion to Every Heart Restored, Every Heart Restored Workbook is also available and is ideal for individual or group use.
Take A Bullet: Has Infidelity Affected Your Life?

The purpose of the book is to simply help you survive the next few moments, days, and weeks if you have been affected by infidelity. I'm a survivor of an affair and I'm continuing my journey towards forgiveness, truth and healing. Rick Thiessen, Senior Pastor; Allen Creek Community Church: I can attest to the fact that all of the insights given and all the scriptures unpacked in these pages, were first field tested in the laboratory of real life. Dan Hazen, Pastor; Allen Creek Community Church: In my role as Pastor, I see a lot of broken lives. Some are severely broken, while others are just limping along. Regardless of how broken they are, there is often an enormous gap between the hurting person and the spiritual helper. With 'Take A Bullet', James has not just bridged that gap, he has filled it in completely. James Rhodes, Best Friend: 'Take A Bullet' is one of those testimonies, which has the solid ring of truth to it. It is a strong representation of people that when they have sinned choose to take the high road rather than make excuses.
"The Peacemaker" These points stood out to me

1. Peacemaking begins with self-transformation. Sande asks me to turn my attention away from my opponent and look at myself. ". . . [M]ost people . . . tend to focus on the negative characteristics of the person who is disagreeing with you, exaggerating his faults and overlooking his virtues." Whereas, "As you search your heart for idols, you will often encounter multiple layers of concealment, disguise, and justification." (pp 105) My idol is seeing other people's faults and how the world would be a better place if they would change. Thinking this way hides my problems from myself – I'm the only real problem God gave me to resolve in life. And my repentance may be the greatest catalyst for helping someone who is in conflict with me.

2. Conflict is God’s tool to deepen our relationship with Him. "Every time you encounter a conflict, you will inevitably show what you really think of God." (p. 33) Do I trust God enough to commit myself to resolving this conflict? Or should I give up when my opponent does not seem to listen? "The other benefit of a God-centered approach to conflict resolution is that it makes you less dependent on results." (pp 34) As my mother says, it’s the process that counts.

3. It does not matter who started it; everyone involved in a conflict has the responsibility to go to his or her opponent and talk about the conflict. It is rationalizing to say, "He should come to me because he offended me." I often vilify people in my mind to justify not communicating with them. "They're so cemented in their sin; they probably won't listen to me." I want to stop being cynical and have the hope that does not end – because it is the hope that God will work in all of us.

4. I have trouble winning at chess because I can't see the board from my opponent's perspective. I want to see him lose, so I get distracted imagining ways he could lose. In a conflict, my mind dwells on the errors in my opponent perspective and how right I am to notice them. But God asks me to be objective, and be as generous when thinking about what my opponent's desires and interests as I would be when thinking about myself.

As much as I want each conflict in my life to go away, God wants to use them to change me. God will give me the strength to do the impossible, such as forgive someone who has hurt me.

You may not be in a conflict, but this book will give you useful tools for when God provides an opportunity in the future – because conflict is an opportunity, a gift.

THE WOUNDED HEART is an intensely personal and specific look at the most "soul deadening" form of abuse, sexual abuse. It is personal because it may be affecting you, your spouse, a close friend or neighbor, or someone you know well at church. And specific because it goes well beyond the general issues and solutions discussed in other books.

HAVE YOU OR SOMEONE YOU KNOW HAS BEEN SEXUALLY ABUSED?
You may think you don't know anyone who has been sexually abused, especially if most of your friends and acquaintances are Christians. But the statistics indicate otherwise: sexual abuse knows no religious or social boundaries. A recent study indicated that 38% of the women interviewed had been sexually abused by an adult or family member by the age of 18.
The Wounded Heart
by: Dan Allender
Thousands of adult survivors of sexual abuse have found help and hope in Allender's book, The Wounded Heart. Now you can get the most out of his ideas.
[Kindle Edition]
The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate
 
Your emotional love language and the language of your spouse may be as different as Chinese from English. No matter how hard you try to express love in “English”, if your spouse understands only “Chinese”, you will never understand how to love each other.

Love is a choice. And either partner can start the process today.

Being sincere is not enough. We must be willing to learn our spouse’s primary love language if we are to be effective communicators of love.

My conclusion after thirty years of marriage counseling is that there are basically five emotional love languages—five ways that people speak and understand emotional love. However, there may be numerous dialects. The important thing is to speak the love language of your spouse.

Communicating love isn’t as easy as feeling “in love,” because it’s quite a different thing. Falling in love is not an act of the will or a conscious choice. It’s effortless. One who is “in love” is not genuinely interested in fostering the personal growth of the other person. If the euphoric pleasure of being “in love” never ended, we might never experience true love and meaningful communication.

Love is something you do for someone else, not something you do for yourself. Most of us do many things each day that do not come “naturally” for us. For some of us, that is getting out of bed in the morning. We go against our feelings and get out of bed because we believe there is something worthwhile to do that day. And normally, before the day is over, we feel good about having gotten up. Our actions preceded our emotions.

The same is true with love. We discover the primary love language of our spouse, and we choose to speak it whether or not it is natural for us. You might not love the language itself, but speaking it will clearly communicate love to your spouse.

[Kindle Edition]Captivating: Unveiling the Mystery of a Woman's Soul  
Captivating, proposes that God made woman as the "Crown of Creation", an embodiment of God's beauty, mystery and vulnerability.

The book rejects the idea of an ideal woman and explores biblical scripture from the view that God desires woman to embrace her glory, rather than fear her feminity.

Also available: Captivating - A Guided Journal
Every little girl has dreams of being swept up into a great adventure, of being the beautiful princess. Sadly, when women grow up, they are often swept up into a life filled merely with duty and demands. Many Christian women are tired, struggling under the weight of the pressure to be a "good servant," a nurturing caregiver, or a capable home manager.

What Wild at Heart did for men, Captivating can do for women.

This groundbreaking book shows readers the glorious design of women before the fall, describes how the feminine heart can be restored, and casts a vision for the power, freedom, and beauty of a
woman released to be all she was meant to be. By revealing the core desires every woman shares-to be romanced, to play an irreplaceable role in a grand adventure, and to unveil beauty-John and Stasi Eldredge
invite women to recover their feminine hearts, created in the image of an intimate and passionate God. Further, they encourage men to discover the secret of a woman's soul and to delight in the beauty and strength
women were created to offer.

Ladies get the book, You Are Captivating! as well [Kindle Edition]

[Kindle Edition]
Mere Christianity
Mere Christianity, Lewis's most popular book, is really three books in one: 1. "Right and Wrong as a Clue to the Meaning of the Universe," 2. "What Christians Believe," and 3. "Christian Behavior," all adapted from a series of radio lectures. The book's title comes from Lewis's attempt to strip Christianity of all that is nonessential, getting down to the "mere" basics of what it means to be a Christian. As a believer, I remember being impressed with the first book since it gives what many consider to be a compelling argument for the existence of a deity. I have an uncle who says that Mere Christianity was a major factor in his "conversion" to deeper commitment. So when I reread the book, I was anxious to reexamine its arguments.

Lewis goes to great anecdotal length to argue for the existence of a "Natural Law" of morality within each human. Unlike the law of gravity, though, this moral law can be disobeyed.

"This law was called the Law of Nature," he writes, "because people thought that every one knew it by nature and did not need to be taught it. They did not mean, of course, that you might not find an odd individual here and there who did not know it, just as you find a few people who are colourblind or have no ear for a tune. But taking the race as a whole, they thought that the human idea of decent behaviour was obvious to every one. And I believe they were right."

C.S. Lewis is a very popular Christian writer. He was a professor at Oxford who converted from atheism to Christianity. Many people have been influenced by his work. He is known for his Narnia series for children, and for many books that popularize theology including Screwtape Letters (along the line of Twain's Letters from the Earth), The Great Divorce (a hell-to-heaven bus ride explaining that people are in hell because they choose to stay there), Miracles, Pilgrim's Regress, The Problem of Pain, and a science fiction trilogy. He writes in a convincing, readable style, is often humorous and usually thoughtful.

The Screwtape Letters
[Kindle Edition]

The Screwtape Letters: With Screwtape Proposes a Toast [Hardcover]


C.S. Lewis dispels all doubts. In The Screwtape Letters, one of his bestselling works, we are made privy to the instructional correspondence between a senior demon, Screwtape, and his wannabe diabolical nephew Wormwood. As mentor, Screwtape coaches Wormwood in the finer points, tempting his "patient" away from God.

Each letter is a masterpiece of reverse theology, giving the reader an inside look at the thinking and means of temptation. Tempters, according to Lewis, have two motives: the first is fear of punishment, the second a hunger to consume or dominate other beings. On the other hand, the goal of the Creator is to woo us unto himself or to transform us through his love from "tools into servants and servants into sons." It is the dichotomy between being consumed and subsumed completely into another's identity or being liberated to be utterly ourselves that Lewis explores with his razor-sharp insight and wit.

The most brilliant feature of The Screwtape Letters may be likening hell to a bureaucracy in which "everyone is perpetually concerned about his own dignity and advancement, where everyone has a grievance, and where everyone lives the deadly serious passions of envy, self-importance, and resentment." We all understand bureaucracies, be it the Department of Motor Vehicles, the IRS, or one of our own making. So we each understand the temptations that slowly lure us into hell. If you've never read Lewis, The Screwtape Letters is a great place to start. And if you know Lewis, but haven't read this, you've missed one of his core writings. --Patricia Klein 

The Four Loves
[Kindle Edition]

The Four Loves [Hardcover]


The Four Loves summarizes four kinds of human love--affection, friendship, erotic love, and the love of God. Masterful without being magisterial, this book's wise, gentle, candid reflections on the virtues and dangers of love draw on sources from Jane Austen to St. Augustine. The chapter on charity (love of God) may be the best thing Lewis ever wrote about Christianity. Consider his reflection on Augustine's teaching that one must love only God, because only God is eternal, and all earthly love will someday pass away: Who could conceivably begin to love God on such a prudential ground--because the security (so to speak) is better? Who could even include it among the grounds for loving? Would you choose a wife or a Friend--if it comes to that, would you choose a dog--in this spirit? One must be outside the world of love, of all loves, before one thus calculates. His description of Christianity here is no less forceful and opinionated than in Mere Christianity or The Problem of Pain, but it is far less anxious about its reader's response--and therefore more persuasive than any of his apologetics. When he begins to describe the nature of faith, Lewis writes: "Take it as one man's reverie, almost one man's myth. If anything in it is useful to you, use it; if anything is not, never give it a second thought." (Amazon.com Review - Michael Joseph Gross )

Mackenzie Allen Phillips's youngest daughter, Missy, has been abducted during a family vacation, and evidence that she may have been brutally murdered is found in an abandoned shack deep in the Oregon wilderness.

Four years later, in this midst of his great sadness, Mack receives a suspicious note, apparently from God, inviting him back to that shack for a weekend.

Against his better judgment he arrives at the shack on wintry afternoon and walks back into his darkest nightmare. What he finds there will change his life forever.

Dirty Girls Come Clean...

Pornography is not just a man's issue.  Twenty-five percent of Christian women are addicted to pornography and sadly, 70% of these women will never confide in someone about their problems.

Recently there has been an explosion of ministries, churches, and individuals battling pornography's destructive and tragic effects.  Porn is highly addictive and requires plenty of tools to break its strangling hold.  However, these ministries and tools are more accessible to men than women.  Women turn to pornography for different reasons than men but once addicted feel the same alienation and shame. 

Women desperately need a place of confession, accountability, and healing separate from men.

 

Prayer: Experiencing Awe and Intimacy with God.

Christians are taught in their churches and schools that prayer is the most powerful way to experience God. But few receive instruction or guidance in how to make prayer genuinely meaningful. In Prayer, renowned pastor Timothy Keller delves into the many facets of this everyday act.

With his trademark insights and energy, Keller offers biblical guidance as well as specific prayers for certain situations, such as dealing with grief, loss, love, and forgiveness. He discusses ways to make prayers more personal and powerful, and how to establish a practice of prayer that works for each reader.

 

 

The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God

 

“Incredibly rich with wisdom and insight that will leave the reader, whether single or married, feeling uplifted.”—The Washington Times

Based on the acclaimed sermon series by New York Times bestselling author Timothy Keller, this book shows everyone—Christians, skeptics, singles, longtime married couples, and those about to be engaged—the vision of what marriage should be according to the Bible.

Modern culture would have you believe that everyone has a soul mate; that romance is the most important part of a successful marriage; that your spouse is there to help you realize your potential; that marriage does not mean forever, but merely for now; and that starting over after a divorce is the best solution to seemingly intractable marriage issues.

[Kindle Edition] The Treasure Principle Bible Study: Discovering the Secret of Joyful Giving

The Treasure Principle: Discovering the Secret of Joyful Giving.



Russ Shaw here, The principles in this book are not only about money.
As a former sex addict I had some pretty distorted views on giving and receiving.
Sex and money are so closely linked as a way to invest in rather then hoard.
Randy's work here is profound, experiencing the joy that is reviled in the transformation of a heart once
locked up like a taking scrooge, to the truth of the treasure principle is reveled!

[Kindle Edition]
Shepherding a Child's Heart

Shepherding a Child's Heart.

Russ here, for me I never experienced healthy parenting, My parents did the best they could with the divorces and the re-marriages but truth be told I had no clue in what it ment to Sheppard my kids. This book not only showed me how not only to be a better parent (and God knows I’m still working on it) but helped me see some of the arrested development in my own life. This book is a huge blessing. More from this reviewer on Amazon

The book is laid out in two parts: Foundations for Biblical Childrearing (the philosophy) and Shepherding Through the Stages of Childhood (the implementation). He begins with exploring the idea that the heart determines behavior. He walks through the various influences our child development that affect what fills the heart. He then reminds parents of their place of authority. I think this is an important concept to internalize, because I increasingly see in our culture a desire to be friends with our children, rather than parents. We focus on making our children like us, and so we gloss over the difficult responsibilities like discipline. 

Tripp then moves into a section on goals, and what I loved about this part is how he shifts our focus from ourselves to God. For example, rather than wanting to raise well-behaved children - because it makes us look good or because it gives us control - we want to raise children who love God so much that they want to live in obedience to Him (not us!).

[Kindle Edition]
Death by Love: Letters from the Cross

Death by Love: Letters from the Cross 



"Mark Driscoll and Gerry Breshears demonstrate with great pastoral skill how rich the gospel is for addressing the common and not so common battles of daily living. The Christian message of a man dying on a cross to rescue wayward sinners and sufferers can seem remote and irrelevant. Yet, Mark and Gerry take the many facets of this diamond we know as the grace of God revealed to us in Christ's life, death, and resurrection and show how powerfully relevant it is for us today. What is so encouraging is that their emphasis on living the Christian life is rooted solidly in the person and work of Jesus. As a pastor and counselor, I was encouraged personally as I read each story and strengthened in my confidence that the gospel is truly sufficient for all who seek rest in a weary world. This book is brutally honest about sin and suffering and wonderfully hopeful as they point us to our true Savior."
Timothy S. Lane, Executive Director, The Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation

 

Question Mark: Why the Church Welcomes Bullies and How to Stop It

• How did the church become a haven for religious bullies—leaders whose psychological profile is more like that of a gang leader than a pastor? 
• How are we inadvertently putting out a “welcome mat” to these people? 
• What are the spiritual genetic markers in our systems that “predispose” us to miss the warning signs and minimize character flaws we swore we’d never accept in a leader? 
The purpose of Question Mark is to shed light on the culture of the church that lends itself, not only to cultivating these types of leaders, but creates a dysfunctional desire in its body for this kind of leadership. 
There are three primary goals for this book: 
1) to help readers identify the tendency toward spiritual pride that creates the proper environment for bullies to thrive; 
2) to provide the tools they need to spot bullies early on; 
3) to help churches grow past the spiritual adolescence bullies depend on. 
The hope is that the insights and experience poured into this book can help avoid the pain of spiritual abuse and the distraction from what believers and seekers are supposed to get from participating in a faith community.

Question Mark exists to add to and illuminate the conversation surrounding religious bullies so positive change can come out of the history of wounds too many have experienced in church.

   
   

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